There is a lot to consider when choosing funeral music. If you want a very traditional service with standard funeral music, the church, crematorium or funeral director will be able to make some suggestions. Of course, there is nothing wrong with going down this route. However, increasingly, people are choosing music that honours the deceased, or that a special significance to them in some way. This doesn’t have to be your traditional funeral music fare.
Think about the person and the tone you want to set
The music you select will very much depend on the person who is being laid to rest and the tone you want to set for the occasion. Do you want an upbeat mood or a more reflective service? The music you select will differ depending on this.
It’s always a good to consult with other family members and other people who know the person well. Nobody should bear the burden of funeral planning on their own – and it’s likely that somebody else will come up with suggestions that you wouldn’t have thought of. Failing that – or if you are struggling for inspiration – if practical, take a look at the person’s music library. This could give you an insight into the type of music that meant the most to them.
Listen to the lyrics of any potential choices carefully. Make sure you listen all the way through. Simply Google the song and you should be able to find the lyrics online with no problem at all.
Is there a ‘right or wrong’ choice of funeral music?
No! Just as long as you keep good taste in mind, there is no right or wrong when it comes to funeral songs. Indeed, any genre or style is appropriate if it is right for you and fits the mood you want to create. Some of the most unconventional choices can be the most poignant.
If there is a blueprint, it is to honour your loved one, first and foremost. If your selection is appropriate and thoughtful, you should be on the right track. Next, set the tone for the service. Mixing the music you play is fine – just as long as the ceremony flows smoothly overall.
Ideally, you want the mourners to be able to celebrate and reflect on the life of the person who has passed away. Choosing music that reflects the tastes of the deceased will enable people to remember their own special memories of their loved one. Above all, your selection of funeral music should provide comfort for people in their time of grief – and have genuine meaning to the deceased and their family and friends.
What about live funeral music?
Now, here’s a thought… what about live music as part of a funeral ceremony? It’s a genuine option and it can create a wonderful atmosphere and something that is truly memorable. There are many types of music that can be played, such as a traditional New Orleans jazz send-off. If you are interested in this idea, get in touch – Silk Street would love to help you give a superb send-off to a loved one.